Last week the lesson topic in Relief Society was “Eternal Marriage.” One woman (divorced after 33 years of marriage and now married again for 10 years) commented that a faithful marriage in the temple is Plan A. Now she is on Plan B, which is okay because there are many plans when it comes to marriage and you adjust and move forward with faith. I appreciated her comment because it seemed to prompt a more open perspective for a lot of people in the room. However, there was a comment I wanted to make in addition…and I didn’t…and now you are the recipients of what has been on my mind all week (this is me warning you about the forthcoming spewing).
I would suggest that if you are following Christ, striving to discern the path that you should take in life, then you are always, always on Plan A. That plan may include a number of difficult trials, the likes of which you would not choose if given the option, but it’s YOUR path and it’s the opposition needed to create in you a being worthy of eternal life. We can never believe that in comparison to other people or to what we believe to be an ideal path that our paths are less valuable or second best. There are two plans—we either follow Christ, repenting, overcoming, finding joy in whatever that plan entails…or we don’t.
Surely, an eternal marriage is the goal, but there are a lot of married people who won’t reach that goal in this life. Creating something eternal with another person means a lot of painful growth and giving, which is the charge given to every single individual striving for Zion. However, we are to be one not just with our spouse, but with our neighbors too. So whether your personal laboratory includes a spouse or not, the goal is the same for everyone, married or single…be one. And if we are not one, we are not God’s.
Thus whatever comes my way that can teach me how to have a Zion heart is a beautiful plan (difficult but beautiful). If I can’t practice oneness with a husband while on earth…I have a world full of personalities to help teach me. The more I can figure out in my own heart how to be at one—the less foreign it’s going to be when a husband does come. Every path is just as valid as another as long as it’s the path that’s creating an eternal being, a being that is at-one with all. That’s the being on Plan A.