I remember in high school having a feeling that I would probably go out into the working world for a season. I rejected that feeling. To be honest I thought embracing that potentiality would be a way of rejecting the greater obligation I had to home and family, something I wanted. My fears kept advising me that I could only choose one. If I chose to be excited about going out into the world on my own for a bit I somehow imagined that my role in the family would be given over to another girl, you know a sweet sister sitting somewhere crocheting in a flowery knit dress. (Ok, maybe not that bad, but I imagined something very dramatic.) I now believe differently. I believe that was the Spirit trying to prepare me to enjoy and embrace my own personal path, though I would not meet the guy for me right away. I've had so many beautiful opportunities over the years, but I regret not starting to think about a wide range of exciting plans right at that very moment.
We'll post about the how-to's of getting a job in the future, but for now I'd like to offer a couple of pieces of advice:
- You can do this. I started out on my journey with very little. I had no parental help for college and had no idea what kinds of jobs even existed. Though I felt confident in certain areas, I did not feel confident that I could get a good job. One of the first things I learned in the working world is that if you are half alive, and willing to do some work - YOU are as competent as the next guy. Seriously.
- Take risks. Others will give you all kinds of very safe advice, some of which is wise. Be advised though some advice, though well-meant, will potentially hold you back in your personal progress. When you're single you don't have the same practical concerns as you would in a family. Take a few risks, even if you have a failure or two the learning experiences will be invaluable. When embarking upon a risk Heather and I used to remind each other that if worse came to worse we could get a job at Burger King and pay our bills just fine.
- Tell God what you need and would like. He is so generous. This has been the key for so many of my friends. I remember once telling Heavenly Father that I just really needed/wanted to make more money. I wanted to move into the financial world of an adult. True story - within one week my salary was doubled. While answers come in different ways at different times, be open to really sharing your heart, needs and desires with him. Even if that desire is just to live in an area where you'll have good friends, or to get a job that you enjoy, he'll help you. I think there is very little we can't achieve with God's help. Have faith in his good character.
- Figure out how successful people have done it. This is the true way to cut corners. If you have always been interested in, let's say, fashion - find out through study or contacts how the best people in the field got to where they are. Take on a world class mentor or move to a city where you can get involved. Be honest about some of your most exciting desires and move forward! Start thinking about what you would absolutely love to do and begin on the path.
- Get started today. Don't wait around for THE perfect job or THE perfect plan. You won't likely end up revolutionizing the world of politics in a day but you will be surprised as you get out there, and put in an honest day's work, how quickly exciting opportunities will open up to you.