Thanks to our All-Star Married Panel (part of a 3-part panel of married types, single types & an LDS therapist) for their answers this month! I think you'll love their thoughts. Remember you can send in your questions at any time to firstname.lastname@example.org.
QUESTION from a reader: When life is at its most difficult, you feel like you've used all of your options to make it better, and your energy towards life is low, how do you get going again? How do you re-convince yourself that life is interesting and beautiful?
ANSWERS from our panel:
Larry and Diane are a wonderful couple from California...and some of the most Christlike people we know.
In the words of Gordan B. Hinckley's father: Forget yourself & go to work.
When things are sour inside it's time to turn inside out & start looking for ways to lose yourself: Volunteer at Red Cross, volunteer at a soup kitchen, read to kids at a nearby school, take something to a neighbor, volunteer at parks & recreation, read to children in the cancer ward, read or play cards with an elderly person--give your life away & you'll find it. That is a guarantee!
Joel and Marie are two of our favorite people. They have an incredible little family and currently hail from Idaho.
Hold tightly to a clear and inspired vision of who you truly are, no matter what life looks like today. Someone wiser than us said, in Mosiah 16:6, "And now if Christ had not come into the world, speaking of things to come as though they had already come, there could have been no redemption."
Keep working, but have patience. Another wise man (Longfellow, in his poem "A Psalm of Life") said :
Let us, then, be up and doing,
With a heart for any fate;
Still achieving, still pursuing,
Learn to labor and to wait.
Rob and Hannah are a super fun couple living in Washington, DC.
Winter is such a terrible time to be feeling like life has just gotten boring—sitting inside all day trying to hide from the cold really doesn't make matters much better. We both grew up in sunny climates and are now trudging through the DC winter, and it can really wear on both of us. Some things that we've tried to beat the doldrums are picking up a new hobby, finding ways to be comfortable in your living space, and changing up your routine (because it's so easy to fall into a rut by doing the same things every day). At the very least, get out of bed at a decent hour, shower and get ready as if you are going to do something new and exciting.
Hope this helps! Hannah and Rob