December 19, 2010

The Sunday Post

It took me about 2 years to crack Sister Kristen Oaks's book, A Single Voice. You know, because everyone thinks you should read it as a single LDS person. (At least now those who offer unsolicited, though well-meaning I'm sure, advice can not only comfort single women with the thought that they might someday be like Sherry Dew, but also Kristen Oaks.) Sister Oaks has really paid the price to write a book like this. She was in her 50's when she got married, she's honest about her ups and downs and has had a lot of joy over the years. I really relate to a lot of what she says and love the book now.

She has a chapter called Christmas - The Single Biggest Holiday. I'm adding an excerpt here for your Sunday enjoyment, I hope, but I would suggest reading the whole thing when you get a chance:

For me not all holidays are created equal. While preparing for Christmas can be a festive time, this season provides many single people with at least thirty full days to anticipate spending another holiday alone. Christmas involves a lot of commercialism and often a great deal of expense, and it encompasses the entire month of December. Stores begin to advertise and decorate, radio stations play Christmas tunes, Christmas trees go on sale, and preparations begin often as early as October. Married people are often unaware of the plight of singles at Christmas. Those who are married are so involved in trying to get their own holiday preparations done that the may not notice someone alone. Singles begin to feel invisible because they are often not included in the festivities going on around them. Many single sisters have described the moment when they realized they needed to make the holidays enjoyable and worthwhile for themselves. They are correct. It is up to us to use the time and agency the Lord has given us to make our lives meaningful.

No poopy holidays this year, my friend. Make it a good one. (And it's not too late, even if you start today!)

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